Comments on: Not Broken, Merely Bent http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/ writing, dogs, coffee, life Fri, 30 Jul 2010 21:09:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Nora http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/comment-page-1/#comment-31 Nora Thu, 29 Dec 2005 20:06:01 +0000 http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/#comment-31 You go babe...<br/><br/>Excellent blog.<br/><br/>I'm sending you tons of love and hugs of the not-painful variety. ;)<br/><br/>Smooches... You go babe…

Excellent blog.

I’m sending you tons of love and hugs of the not-painful variety. ;)

Smooches…

]]> By: Autumn http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/comment-page-1/#comment-30 Autumn Thu, 29 Dec 2005 01:35:03 +0000 http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/#comment-30 I'm still get angry too. Don't think otherwise. :)<br/><br/>Thank you though, I try grace, even though I often feel like I'm always tripiing over my own two feet. I’m still get angry too. Don’t think otherwise. :)

Thank you though, I try grace, even though I often feel like I’m always tripiing over my own two feet.

]]> By: inkgrrl http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/comment-page-1/#comment-29 inkgrrl Thu, 29 Dec 2005 00:39:39 +0000 http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/#comment-29 By the way, to me whining while climbing the mountain is just making noise to catch your breath - it's a qualitative difference in the positive direction. Bitching, if you will. Semantics... the important thing is that you're climbing. By the way, to me whining while climbing the mountain is just making noise to catch your breath – it’s a qualitative difference in the positive direction. Bitching, if you will. Semantics… the important thing is that you’re climbing.

]]> By: inkgrrl http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/comment-page-1/#comment-28 inkgrrl Thu, 29 Dec 2005 00:36:49 +0000 http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/#comment-28 Autumn, if reclaiming the labels works for you, more power to you - I get the approach, but I'm just not there yet. I think fibro definitely hits you harder than it has me, and you're a lot more graceful in dealing with it than I've so far managed to be. Channeling the energy from my anger about it into a positive direction is what's kept me going and what's helping me heal. The enlightened approach would be acceptance with no anger, but darlin', I ain't that enlightened. I'm pissed off, no two ways about it. I hope that some day I will find the grace and humor you have.<br/><br/>Ghillie, I don't judge people for being in pain and needing what they need to get through the day. (Believe me, if I could control and handle my pain I wouldn't have gone to the doctor about it in the first place.) It's those folks who ceaselessly complain but are willing to do nothing to better their situation because it's become comfortable, who fall back to the word "can't" instead of owning their choices, who I don't want to be around. We all have moments of feeling sorry for ourselves - that's only human, and frankly I wonder if my anger about fibro is just me feeling sorry for myself with lots of sparks on top - but it's not cool to wallow. There's the statement, "this is pissing me off," and there's the follow-up question, "what can I do about it?" I'd rather keep asking the question than stay stuck in the statement. Autumn, if reclaiming the labels works for you, more power to you – I get the approach, but I’m just not there yet. I think fibro definitely hits you harder than it has me, and you’re a lot more graceful in dealing with it than I’ve so far managed to be. Channeling the energy from my anger about it into a positive direction is what’s kept me going and what’s helping me heal. The enlightened approach would be acceptance with no anger, but darlin’, I ain’t that enlightened. I’m pissed off, no two ways about it. I hope that some day I will find the grace and humor you have.

Ghillie, I don’t judge people for being in pain and needing what they need to get through the day. (Believe me, if I could control and handle my pain I wouldn’t have gone to the doctor about it in the first place.) It’s those folks who ceaselessly complain but are willing to do nothing to better their situation because it’s become comfortable, who fall back to the word “can’t” instead of owning their choices, who I don’t want to be around. We all have moments of feeling sorry for ourselves – that’s only human, and frankly I wonder if my anger about fibro is just me feeling sorry for myself with lots of sparks on top – but it’s not cool to wallow. There’s the statement, “this is pissing me off,” and there’s the follow-up question, “what can I do about it?” I’d rather keep asking the question than stay stuck in the statement.

]]> By: Gillie http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/comment-page-1/#comment-27 Gillie Tue, 27 Dec 2005 22:42:26 +0000 http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/#comment-27 I understand your attitude to the pity party aspect, and I like your anger and the way you write, but just because they sound whiny doesn't mean the pain isn't real, and just because you can control and handle your pain, doesn't mean everyone can. And you have to understand, some people's pain is worse than yours and needs more medication. <br/><br/>There's no way to prove pain, and some days you have to whine. Even if it's quietly under your breath as you climb that damn mountain one more time.<br/><br/>What gets to me more than the whiny is the sickly-sweet. I'm pissed off, don't try and hug me, especially if it's a *hug*. I understand your attitude to the pity party aspect, and I like your anger and the way you write, but just because they sound whiny doesn’t mean the pain isn’t real, and just because you can control and handle your pain, doesn’t mean everyone can. And you have to understand, some people’s pain is worse than yours and needs more medication.

There’s no way to prove pain, and some days you have to whine. Even if it’s quietly under your breath as you climb that damn mountain one more time.

What gets to me more than the whiny is the sickly-sweet. I’m pissed off, don’t try and hug me, especially if it’s a *hug*.

]]> By: Autumn http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/comment-page-1/#comment-26 Autumn Tue, 27 Dec 2005 04:47:26 +0000 http://inkgrrl.com/inkblog/2005/12/25/not-broken-merely-bent/#comment-26 Those words weren't meant only for those us with Fibro. They are meant for others as well.<br/><br/>"broken, but still good." is from Lilo & Stitch. It's a joke my husband and I share when I'm in flare. Disabled is the legal term, and yes, I think it's important to address it. Because only through explaining to people that disabled doesn't not mean truely broken or useless, can we begin to see it too.<br/><br/>Did you check out my <a HREF="http://www.perfectiononacurve.com/fibro.html" REL="nofollow">Fibro</a> page, or some of my recent posts on pain and flaring? I agree with you that it's about maintence. 100%. I don't go to or particpate in the pity parties so many people with Fibro do. I like you have multiple diagnosis. Like you I work hard to maintain my health, and unlike so many I am doing well, in my opinion. <br/><br/>Months ago, I posted <a HREF="http://www.perfectiononacurve.com/post.html?post_id=562" REL="nofollow">this</a>. Maybe that will make it clearer on how I see my illness. I find that accepting labels and making them my own gives me power when others try to label me. That's where I'm coming from. <br/><br/>I'm glad you have support and goals. I do too. I'm glad you're improving and accepting your limitations while continuing to push them. There seem to be, openly, so few who do. <br/><br/>Please, stop back by, and search my site for info on Fibro and pain, and my struggle with this illness. You'll see there's a lot of humor and light heartedness along side the self contemplation and struggle. Those words weren’t meant only for those us with Fibro. They are meant for others as well.

“broken, but still good.” is from Lilo & Stitch. It’s a joke my husband and I share when I’m in flare. Disabled is the legal term, and yes, I think it’s important to address it. Because only through explaining to people that disabled doesn’t not mean truely broken or useless, can we begin to see it too.

Did you check out my Fibro page, or some of my recent posts on pain and flaring? I agree with you that it’s about maintence. 100%. I don’t go to or particpate in the pity parties so many people with Fibro do. I like you have multiple diagnosis. Like you I work hard to maintain my health, and unlike so many I am doing well, in my opinion.

Months ago, I posted this. Maybe that will make it clearer on how I see my illness. I find that accepting labels and making them my own gives me power when others try to label me. That’s where I’m coming from.

I’m glad you have support and goals. I do too. I’m glad you’re improving and accepting your limitations while continuing to push them. There seem to be, openly, so few who do.

Please, stop back by, and search my site for info on Fibro and pain, and my struggle with this illness. You’ll see there’s a lot of humor and light heartedness along side the self contemplation and struggle.

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